|"How dare you!? Get away!"|
Some people think that if you're dressed up, you're asking for the attention and that in some way you are obligated to let people take your photo. I highly disagree! No sane person would think a woman in provocative clothing is asking for sexual harassment, no one in an unusual fashion is asking for weirdos to take their photo. Yes, you can prevent people from taking your photo by always dressing "normal," but you can also avoid it by never venturing into public, ever. Where do you draw the line with that kind of reasoning?
|When is it ok to take someone's photo? At a press conference!|
It really made me wonder why she (or anyone) would not just say no. I know that when I am caught off guard, I say yes to photos. Saturday was probably the first time I realized I could say no. I realized that I was under no obligation to have my photo taken. It was liberating! In the future, I'll say no if I don't want to have my photo taken.
Other lolitas are free to let strangers take their photo but I hope they keep this in mind: When people want to take your photo, it's because they think you're wearing a costume. We lolitas already struggle to get people to recognize lolita as a fashion and not a costume. Letting people gawk at you (via agreeing to photos) is silent compliance with this incorrect assumption.
|These are actual costumes... I'm pretty sure.|
Most people wouldn't dream of asking a stranger for a photo, even if they liked their outfit. I think the only time I asked a stranger for a photo was as an immature teenager when my friend wanted to take a photo with a guy (also a teenager) she thought was cute. But I've never just seen someone with an outfit I liked and asked to take their picture. I do take photos at Lolita meets in which I participate. But in those circumstances I am not an outside spectator.
|Ok, I was gawking a little bit!|
If someone runs a website or blog about events or street fashion, I think that's ok. There are different local publications that go to events around the city and take photos of people in attendance. That's acceptable.
At the Jpop summit a couple of years ago, an older man asked to take our photo. I thought it seemed kinda weird but he gave us a business card for his website. He had a bunch of photos for conventions and stuff. He was legit! And I got this cute professional-quality photo out of it! :D
|Yay! Thanks for the photo, sir!|
Obviously, not everyone feels the way I do! Some people might like taking photos with strangers... and that's ok.
|"Ok, NOW you can take my photo!"|
It's probably obvious, but these photos are all my own!
*I need to post photos of Saturday's meet! I'll do soon!